• “Carry Me is a welcome exploration of the intimate details and sociopolitical complexities of pregnancy loss. These stories will leave you gasping, crying, and even laughing through grief, while also inspiring a sense of candidness and unabashed self-compassion. An important addition to the growing voices of grievers demanding more awareness, better care and open dialogue around miscarriage.”

    — Jessica Zucker, author of I Had a Miscarriage: A Memoir, a Movement

  • “Frieda Hoffman has not only written a beautiful and important book, she has written a book that does something few narratives dare: she casts light onto a subject so many keep hidden in the darkness, and guides readers, knowledgeably and tenderly, into a territory that one might just call Hope. This book is a gift.”

    — Lee Kravetz, author of The Last Confessions of Sylvia P. and Strange Contagion

  • “Pregnancy loss stubbornly remains woefully misunderstood, leaving parents-to-be unsupported and isolated in their grief. This is why Hoffman’s compassionate book is of such great value: the stories she shares will resonate, make valuable connections and provide solace and soothing. They also educate, so please read them if you have had no experience of such loss yourself.”

    — Julia Bueno, author of The Brink of Being: Talking about Miscarriage

  • “Frieda Hoffman has found a way to call attention to what is normally termed ‘women’s issues’, showing they are in fact a public health issue that must be addressed. By using her own experience as well as these nineteen brave women, this book offers insight into what women suffering pregnancy loss may be experiencing and the understanding that they are not alone.”

    — Miriam Chickering, CEO, Nurses International

  • “Finally! We’ve needed this. Carry Me illuminates a topic so taboo it has rarely been openly discussed. This book is a gift for generations to come, revealing the full complexity of a common human event so that women no longer have to suffer in silence.”

    — Bethany N. Golden, Women’s Health Expert and Juntos Adelante Co-Founder

  • “In her tender and highly accessible debut, Hoffman shares a broad range of narratives about grief, womanhood, and body politics, woven together by Hoffman’s own grief and healing journey.... A powerful and invaluable resource helping to normalize the dialogue around pregnancy loss.”

    — SheKnows review, May 2022

  • “The distinct voices of the women come through clearly, making for an engaging and highly readable narrative... An informative and enlightening look at the experience of pregnancy loss.”

    — Kirkus Review, March 2022

My Story

After my second miscarriage, I felt alone, ignorant, and overwhelmed with emotions. Finding little literature or support available, my entrepreneurial spirit kicked in and I decided to create the resource I wished I’d had: real stories about pregnancy loss from real women without the off-putting lens of religion or academia so typical of the self-help genre.

Through my own journey and those of nineteen women I interviewed, Carry Me: Stories of Pregnancy Loss explores universal themes of grief, bearing witness, transforming adversity into opportunity, and the paradox of feeling alone while sharing a common experience. The diverse women and narratives unpack the physical, emotional, and financial challenges of loss; notions of womanhood and motherhood; and the intersections of public health, body politics, and patient care. Readers are called to action to share their own stories in order to heal themselves and support others.

Nearly everyone knows someone affected by pregnancy loss, yet most of us are not comfortable, even in the relative safety of the company of friends and sisters, discussing this serious health issue. It’s time to normalize the dialogue and help one another through our losses by sharing our resources, our wisdom, and our stories—by carrying one another.

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